How to stop chasing the carrot and constantly feeling bad about ourselves

I find that the more I enter the world of career, the more it feels inevitable to compare myself to other people. As soon as you achieve something great, it feels like you’re better than everyone else, but as soon as you fail multiple times in a row, the opposite happens — you feel as though you are worse than everyone. This shows us that our external perception of ourselves is very volatile and depends on whether it's a good or a bad day.

We get into this mindset of trying to reflect our own value perception off of social rank and status, and we are doing it to seem good to other people rather than to please ourselves.

It seems that deep down, we have insecurities. Those insecurities are fueled by culture and society by making us want more, buy more, try to be more, as well as our wrongful belief that to fix those insecurities we need external validation, rather than internal acceptance and love.

We need to find a way to feel fulfilled and focus on ourselves — accepting and loving who we are the same way whether it's a good day or a bad day. And we just need to pursue our interests, challenge ourselves and grow. One way to start is learning healthy confidence and tackling those inner insecurities: https://www.tonyrobbins.com/building-confidence/how-to-be-confident

Another resource is Mark Manson’s book “The subtle art of not giving a f*ck” (a book about how to give a f*ck about the right things). A video summary by the author himself available at: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lz8sUiXAnbs&ab_channel=MarkManson